Obess with past

By cvalentino2 on Sat, 02-18-12, 17:33

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I hate how I still can't get over my frist boyfirend in the past 4 years, and feel like I have a problem because I think I'm obess over him because I don't know how to let him go. I wish I could stop thinking about, but it's so hard to leave hin alone and so ashame of my behavior over him wish I could stop.

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By CK on Tue, 02-21-12, 10:27

I found this on wikihow and loved the tips, here are some of them:

1
If you are in school, become dedicated to a club--become more active on campus, which will help you meet new people so you will not focus on that one particular person.

2
If you aren't in school, join causes, become dedicated to a hobby, get involved in your community (to meet more people).

3
Sometimes, we become obsessed because we believe that one person we are obsessing over is the only person who will ever love us or we believe they are our "one true love." Never think of anyone in that way--that is only an ideal, not truth. If it didn't work out, then it most likely wasn't meant to be.

4
Remember the way that person treated you and others. Don't focus on the good parts.

5
If you are friends with this person on a social networking site (like MySpace or Facebook), take them off your friend list. I know that sounds harsh, but how will you ever get over them if you are able to see what they are up to all the time?

6
Realize that the need for a partner can be based on something else--maybe low self-esteem, feelings of loneliness, or inability to connect with other people in a way that is outside of a romantic relationship.

7
Remember that while you are obsessing over this person, you are missing out on a person who is probably better for you in addition to other parts of life that you could be enjoying.

8
Stop making excuses for why they didn't call, didn't email you back, made you feel bad, or any other negative way they might have treated you. Don't ever think they are sitting around thinking about you--because, even if you are an incredible person, he/she is probably wrapped up in their own life. If they feel interested in you, they will take the initiative to contact you. Since they are not doing that, it means they are not interested in you.

9
Get rid of pictures of that person and avoid fantasizing about them. No one deserves incomplete love or a shadow of love.

Hope these help!

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CK

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By cvalentino2 on Tue, 02-21-12, 12:03

This help me alot thank you so much!

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By DoTheRightThing on Tue, 02-21-12, 23:59

CK-I liked the advice especially #3 and # 8. Im going through the same thing and have NO CLUE how to move on

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