my boyfriend wants to become celibate for religious reasons, but i disagree...

It would seem that the honest and healthy choice is for your friend to make his decision about celibacy, and then deal with the consequences. Do you really want a partner that cannot honor his commitments? Your support is important, so celibacy becomes your life as well, should he choose that. And if your need for sexual intimacy is more important than having a healthy relationship, LA is a big city. Be well. Keep us posted.

Have you read the Bible? Maybe then you will understand. Sex is not a game, it's not a psat time sport, it's not something consenting adults should do just because it feels good...etc. Sex is for marriage. Gods way is the only way to have a true honorable and right sex life....of course, Im a believer, easy for me to say. STDs and unwanted pregnancies are no joke!!! Most definately not worth a roll in the hay w someone you're not legally committed to! I have to take your bfs side here. I did the same thing b4 marriage w more than 1 woman and found out the hard way. Learn from my mistakes, that is wisdom. I support you in the only way I know how----with the truth. You are a woman, I would hope you can find the dignity and respect of yourself to see the real decption of premarital sex. Life is short pray hard! Sorry if this offends but it really hurts me to see sex hurting people like this. It seems simple but its really complicated and very risky. This is your life we're talkin about. Peace

Religion aside, there is nothing wrong with safe sex between consenting adults in a committed relationship; so don’t let anyone make you feel guilty. It is natural for you to have needs and want them to be met with your partner. It is also important to know that you can control sexual needs, so if you decide it is the right decision for YOU, you can choose to go along with his decision and have a happy relationship together.

It is important to communicate your needs in a relationship. He has communicated to you that he feels a need to become closer to God, and he thinks the solution is celibacy. You in turn need to communicate to him that you have a need for sexual intimacy. Sit him down and talk about it calmly. Unless he plans to become a priest and take a vow of celibacy because of that, I see no reason why he can’t grow closer to God in other ways and still stay intimate with you. After all, God teaches love. In modern times, with birth control and protection, it isn’t necessary to wait until marriage for sex. The Bible has to be taken in the context of the time it was written in. Sex is actually a very spiritual thing for many people; feeling closer to each other helps us feel closer to God and understand his love. At least, that’s how I feel about it. Regardless, there is no harm in having an honest, non-confrontational discussion about sex with your significant other. Your feelings should be important to him too. If he can’t respect your needs in the relationship, it might not be the right relationship for either of you.

Best of luck,
Cation

Cation makes very good points. I came to this site looking for help myself ... Coming through a 28 year relationship myself there are a lot of things that sound familiar to me in what you said. First two different pages in regards to sex that never went away. Next it seems as tho your chasing / dragging. Didnt he ask you to move? Now you get here and he has changed the plans? That's not right. Sounds mean to me. Idk to me a relationship should be a walk together, supporting each other. Look I know your lonely, that propelled me through 28 years, afraid I would never find someone... But now all this time has passed and ... Still lonely... Do yourself a favor have that conversation and don't try settle for good enough you deserve better.

I know how you feel destined to be-, my boyfriend also is getting back into god. Cation you have a very good point, destined to be, you do deserve better. And if he truly loves you he do something about it or pick god if he wants him more.