Good deed for the day:

Sounds like you gave yourself good advice. You are ready to make change and you are sticking to it. Good for you. Stay strong.

Jessica,
I just dropped my husband off at a meeting and found my way to this site. I may be getting into your conversation a day late and a dollar short, but maybe my adivise might be worth looking into. In almost every jurisdiction in the US, the facility housing your ex is responisble for his medical care and treatment. I assume he is either a state or county inmate. IF he truly has something in writing that says "we have a bed for you, if and only if, you bring along 2 months of your meds". He should
1. Ask to the DR. when he makes routine rounds
2. Tell the Dr. medication prescribed, and provide name the Dr. who made diag and wrote script.
3. Provide Dr. and Wardon with info about bed and conditions @ medication.
4. Make Request to Dr. and Wardan for meds.
5. Inmates are expensive to house. If there is any humanly way possible for a facility to pass your ex on to someone else - they will bend over backwards to make any accommidations.

I suspect he is trying to keep you on the hook so to speak. He is a grown man and needs to speak for himself.

If prior to incarceration there was a medical dr who gave an expert opinion that ex needs to be on a certain medication, the facility in which he is incarcerated is on the hook for continueing medical care.

Be strong, have him consult with his attorney or ask for a public defender and remove yourself - it is not your responsibility and he knows it only too well.

thanks... yeah I know..> I don't want to be involved at all anymore. I am tired of taking care of him and cleaning up his messes... he is 100% in this situation because of his own doing... it's not even bad luck... alll on him.

Sounds like you have a good plan to protect yourself from anything. Keep the good work up and don't cave in.

At my knitting group last night at 9 pm... (which is 11 pm where my MIL and husband are) I start getting texts with all of these detailed instructions on phone calls I "need" to make and questions she "needs" answered.

I called the Dr she wanted em to call. left a message with the questions, she called back saying my MIl was blowing up their phones too and she would tell me what she ALREADY told her... so I shared the information, said that the only information I am willing to pass on is if there is an actual appointment scheduled. otherwise I wanted nothing to do with anything that was happening.

last night I had trouble thinking... my mind was just full... nothing BAD... just realiations... this man had very little to do with his children when we were all in the same house... he lived with his parents less than 4 miles away all of September and only saw them once a week for about 2 hours. he had a chance to come here for 12 days and got drunk and broke w/in 16 hours and went home.

I put $50 on a prepaid card for him to call his children form jail and he has done so only once since December. He writes me letters only to scream at me and call me names... with only one sentence telling me to tell the kids he loves them.
Why do I keep trying to givethis man the benefit of the doubt?

Because It is habit. To break a habit takes about one to three months. You have to say no to anything that is going to drag you back into the situation. Once you have made it through that it gets easier and easier to say no.

Your very welcome. You have good advice too!!! What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. I feel better when I feel stronger I don't know about anyone else. But is feels good. To know we can conquer things in our lives that is not good for us.

Jessica, cause we keep getting dragged back in by this technology. You were minding your own business and the phone was blowing up at you. Maybe next time when you are knitting turn your phone off. Just a thought.